Elena has lived all over the world and help people from all cultures and walks of life. Her approach to relationship assistance is based on communicating what you want and don't want in a healthy way. Elena has worked as a counselor to men and women for more than 15 years. Elena provides the right tools and tips to navigate the dating arena and /or improve your relationship.
What do you want? Do you want just sex or do you want to make love and have sex?
Having sex and making love is two different things, which we will talk more about shortly.
Going back to the question in the title, whether it is ok for women to have sex on the first date...
You can have a great connection with someone and the best chemistry ever and decide at the same time to consumate the relationship by mutual agreement. To be honest with you, that is perfectly fine with me, if it is ok with you. Some people are still married after a one night stand. I am not a moralist.
However, here is something for you to think about. Usually when we meet someone with whom we have a great connection, there is always a lot of sexual friction. They both are feeling high, they both are anxious with each other's company and they both know they can easily lose control in each others arms. In other words, they want to be in control so they don't have to deal with the pain of losing themselves in the process of not knowing what is next. They haven't been taught how to delay gratification, they haven't been taught that in order to appreciate something they need to work for it. They need to want it so badly that they are willing to be patient for the right moment to appear.
For some people there is no point in waiting when they can have it all now.
Why would they? What is the point in that?
Well if they could only wait for the right moment to get to experience each other without being physical, they will not only know if they are a good match for the long run but they might get the chance to be able to make love and also have sex.
They will not just penetrate each others' bodies, they will also penetrate each others hearts. Which is the ultimate goal for everyone. You will be able to melt with your lover.
Have you ever experienced what I am talking about?
'Cause I did. And It was magic. Nothing can compare with it. It was like being in Nirvana...
According to Pat Allen Ph D, people who have sex don't make love, people who choose to make love can also have sex. So make up your mind.