FEMALE EMPLOYEES OUTNUMBERING MALE EMPLOYEES RESULTING IN ‘NO MARRIAGES’ FOR MEN IN INDIA

D. Chaitanya January 27, 2012

When we are speaking something we must speak from realistic perspective on any issue. And we must also have the conscientious attitude to understand the things with open mind and to accept the things. And we should not speak contrary to the facts existing in the society how distasteful to us or prejudicial to our minds. For example the issue pertaining to women employment in India what statistics shows regarding women employment in Urban India is quite different from ground realities. Wheather it is in government sector or in private sector, women dominate, numerically speaking, in all types of employment. In Government sector, besides free education and scholarships, 30% reservations exclusively are meant for women in government or public sector undertakings and they can also compete in rest of the 70%. So, men have to confine themselves in government/public sector undertaking employment only to 70%. And women can compete in 70%, besides exclusively retaining their 30% reservations in employment. This in fact has resulted in the number of women employees almost occupying 50% to 60% of the staff or even more in government or in public sector undertakings.

For instance, just go to any Nationalised Bank or to any co-operative Bank in the country, you find women in every counter, that means if there 10 counters in a Bank you can see women in 7 counters and remaining 3 are men. Similarly in Government offices, you can find number of women employees outnumber men in every section in the Office. Just do not go by the obsolete statistics provided by some organisations. Only if you go and verify you will come to know it is true. Even in the Teaching field the Government Schools, colleges or Universities, women almost are equal in number or outnumber men in employment. The exception is in Police Departments, Defense Departments and in Public Transport departments and other hazardous industries such as mining etc,. Similarly in Private Sector like Business establishments, Software Sector, Other Corporate Sectors, Shopping Complexes, Advertising Sector, Fashion, Private Electronic and Print Media, Cinema industry, Marketing fields, Private Schools and colleges, 50% or in many places 60 to 70% female employees are found.

So this has clearly resulted in unemployment for men, resulting in consequential impact on the matrimonial system in India. How? For example, in olden days women had less education and they were more inclined to get married sooner and used to become dependents on men. Today women are no more dependents on men. They have wider employment opportunities. So once an average Indian women secured employment petty one or big employment, she shows least interest in getting married sooner, and wait until she finds a man who is earning higher than her or who is in higher position to her. A women working as a Clark or computer operator in a Bank expects to marry an established software Engineer or Professional Engineer or a Doctor or an Officer working in a good Organisation/Department. She does not marry a co-clerical employee or a male Attender or a Record-Clark of the same bank or working in similar other organisations. So a modern average Indian woman’s expections are always on higher-end, with no compromising nature in match selection and in other matrimonial issues.

And moreover as the empoyers in Government or in Private sector more and more interested in providing employement opportunities to women for various reasons, male employement has apprantly become quite dull and men are remaining as unemployed and unmarried for long time. “Moreover several women after getting employement becomes very angry for unknown reasons and if you have any official work to seek any information from her she neither responds properly nor gives inaccurate information due to impatience or because she is a women employee protected by the women protection laws. So any male person when approaching to any women employee in a government or in Public Sector or Private Sector for any work, they have to address her so submissively, so politely which is in fact not warranted in such situations really speaking when it is her duty to discharge her function, and have to get your work done. Whereas you (if you are a men or a women) you need not speak so politely, so submissively when some work has to be done by a male employee sitting in that seat. This is the quite apparent difference between the male and female employees seen in India.

So with the outnumbering of women employment, the temperament, values have changed and as the empoloyed women always marry an employed man who is higher in position but not an unemployed man. Where as the employed man marrys either one employee or an unemployed women, because some men look for stable family life whereas, a women employee never compromises for an unemployed men, thereby resulting in increase of ‘unemployement of men’ and ‘no marriages’ for men.

SO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE? A balancing activity (by legislation) must be initiated by the Government first in Government sector, then later extending it to private sector also. So if a man is having a government employment, whether it is a petty Attender job or or an Indian Administrative Services Job, he must marry only an unemployed women. Similarly if a women is holding a petty Attender job or and Indian Administrative Services job, she must marry an unemployed man. That means both wife and husband must not hold jobs. Among the wife and husband only one must have job and the other must look after the house hold works and has to look after the welfare of children. So money will not concentrate at one place i.e. at one family. One Family (i.e. One wife and One Husband) one job. So many job opportunities will be spread over to many unemployed men in the country. And each man will marry unemployed women and each employed women must marry an unemployed man. This will result invariably to stabilisation of employment field and matrimonial system as well in the country. So finally employement will prevail and marriages will also prevail. So employment opportunities will increase and marriages will also be solmanized at proper age for men and women resulting in healthy growth of society. ‘So finally here there is no objection for women employment, the objectionable thing is, employed women not marrying unemployed men or men having petty employments’. Men have been doing this already. So let us start thinking this with open minds.