– Tony Robbins
When first meeting, there’s usually a form of greeting before the conversation begins. Always use a firm handshake and eye contact along with a smile and a friendly manner. By following some simple steps, the conversation that commences will be most useful.
These are a few of the secret skills needed in to become a great communicator
Connect with your inner self
People need to know themselves first in order to be an excellent conversationalist. By having self-confidence, they will then have the competence to connect with other people. A genuine conversation requires people to be entirely present and interested in the viewpoint of others. They need to remain aligned within themselves to be able to listen with understanding.
When speaking with another person, nothing is more important and useful than being sincere. This is the foundation for making a genuine connection.
Being consistent will build a person’s character. And, one needs to live by their spoken word. It will carry more impact and provide a greater reach. By remaining consistent in nature, more credibility comes through.
Meet people in the middle
During a conversation, a person wants others to understand what’s being said. However, this will involve meeting them in the middle. A conversation is about talking to people but also listening to and learning from them.
It’s paramount to hear what others are saying because it will help build a connection while showing them respect. It also gives more understanding into the conversation. When listening, remain at the moment so that any cues sent from the other person can be picked up on. Let them understand that what they’re saying is actually being heard.
Instead of concentrating on what the next reply is going to be, ask questions so the subject can be clarified. Whatever the other person is attempting to relay, it needs to be fully understood before moving on to a response.
It’s of no consequence what role or position the person is in, everyone should be respected and treated accordingly. It sets the tone of the communication, and when one respects the other, respect will be returned.
It’s important to find a way to connect sincerely with the other person. One needs to find something they have in common with the other person. This will help build a better understanding and lead to a more productive conversation.
A person needs to develop their ability to ask the right questions and to always listen attentively. This is one of the most successful forms of communicating with other people. It becomes a huge part of becoming an excellent conversationalist.
Be genuinely interested
Some people believe they have something important to say, and that’s what they communicate to others. However, it’s far better for a person to participate in a conversation because they believe the other person has something important to say.
Watch the body language and tone
A person’s tone of voice and their body language play a huge part in what’s being said. The body always speaks louder than the words that are spoken. People need to be careful because sometimes it can deliver a message that wasn’t intended.
A single word can mean something entirely different when a particular tone of voice is used. Be sure to use the correct tone of voice when communicating. This way there won’t be any misunderstandings.
Make it a two-way conversation
A conversation takes place between at least two people so it should never become a monologue. To be an effective talk, a person needs to ask the others to participate and then listen to what they have to say. Everyone has one mouth, and two ears which mean a person should speak less and listen more.
Strong relationships can develop when people observe these communication secrets. It will allow them to collect relevant information and increase their understanding of themselves and others.
Great communicators are honest, stand out from the crowd, are authentic, and they always listen. These people excel in communicating with others because they truly value it.
These people excel in communicating with others because they truly value it and always remember:
Paul J. Meyer