How far will you go to help your friends and family financially and emotionally?
Will you give your last shirt? Your last 5 Dollar Bill?
Will you give up money you had set aside to pay a vital bill and then loan it out with the promise to get it back before the bill was due; just to scramble when the bill was due and the payback was not forthcoming?
Have you had your power, your water or any other utility shut off because you loaned the money out on a promise and did not get it back in time?
There is nothing wrong with helping someone that fell on hard times, IF you can afford it!
There is everything wrong with you helping and then needing help yourself and not getting it.
There are other ways to help people to get what they need.
I learned that if someone comes to me and asks me to borrow $20 for gas, I go to the Gas Station with them and I put the gas in to their car.
You will find that about half of the time you will not have to go there; they really did not needed the gas, they just wanted the cash for something else.
The same goes for diapers, baby food and groceries. Offer to go to the store and buy it and you will find that most times they do not really want to go to the store. I even went as far as asking to use their car to go to the store to buy those things for them, this will make them think.
Baby needs is a very common excuse to get money out of someone; who ever wants a baby to not have diapers or food? Do not fall in to that trap.
Offer to bring them to the local Food Bank if they do not have transportation, or give them the information on the Food Banks if they do have a car to go there themselves.
Do anything you can not to have to open your own wallet and fork out those $$ you’ll be needing yourself.
It is also always a good idea to have a list of phone numbers for the local charity organizations handy and to get those people to make their own phone calls so they get the help they need. Most Department of Family Services offices have little cards with all those numbers on them. Call and they will send them to you in the mail.
There are organizations in every County of the US that will help with the vital commodities, like help with the utility bills, at least once a year.
Most of all: USE THEM FOR YOURSELF.
Helping others all the time will drive your boat right into the swamp and you are stuck, sometimes to a point where you can not find a way out by yourself.
ASK FOR HELP YOURSELF, it is out there.
The emotional part of this is another story and a lot harder to overcome.
Are you letting someone else suck you emotionally dry? Do you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall and there is no end to the problems of other people?
In some aspects, emotion suckers are worse the money suckers. They get to you before you know it and you don’t usually see it coming.
They come into your life and before you know it they are your life. They load their problems up on you and walk out leaving it all behind. You rack your brain on solutions for them and your own life comes to a screeching halt. You go to bat for someone that is not your own problem and it is eating you up. All the while the other person lives his/ her own life and does not worry about anything. Why should they, they have you to worry about it for them, and you are more than willing to do it!
Situations like this will bring you to the edge of a nervous break down, they will stress you out and reek havoc in your own life.
You can defeat this by realizing what it is that stresses you. Realize that it is not your problem and that you need to get a grip on your own life by NOT getting a grip on somebody else’s problems.
Those problems will sidetrack you from your own and by time you realize what is happening, your own little problems have grown into mountains that are hard to climb.
Do not be afraid to tell people that come into your life and expect you to take care of their problems, to find another way. Tell them you have your own life to live and that it is time for them to get their life in order on their own.
Spend more time with positive people and less with the ones that have constant problems. Surround yourself with the joy of life, not the downfalls and you will have more happiness.
Develop a daily schedule, and stick to it.
Cut out all stress inducing outside influences and you will find that life is not so bad after all. Allow time to help others with this schedule, but make sure it is a small enough amount and you will be able to handle it. Use that time only to come to the aid of others and when that time is up, get on with your own life.
Do not let anybody abuse you emotionally!
People that manipulate you, coerce you, intimidate you and generally show behavior that is designed to control you are abusers. They may not abuse you physically, but they sure lay claim to your emotions. They can brain wash you before you know it and you will be at their beck and call.
If you let them do this to you, you may not even know at the beginning what is happening, but I can tell you that you will be scarred for life.
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The other person places unreasonable demands on you and wants you to put everything else aside to tend to their needs.
-
It could be a demand for constant attention, or a requirement
-
You are subjected to constant criticism, and you are constantly berated because you don’t fulfill all this person’s needs.
Don’t let this happen to you, realize what is happening and act on that realization.
Are you one of those people that can’t say “NO”, no matter how much hardship it will cost you?
How far will you go to help your friends and family financially and emotionally?
Will you give your last shirt? Your last 5 Dollar Bill?
Will you give up money you had set aside to pay a vital bill and then loan it out with the promise to get it back before the bill was due; just to scramble when the bill was due and the payback was not forthcoming?
Have you had your power, your water or any other utility shut off because you loaned the money out on a promise and did not get it back in time?
There is nothing wrong with helping someone that fell on hard times, IF you can afford it!
There is everything wrong with you helping and then needing help yourself and not getting it.
There are other ways to help people to get what they need.
I learned that if someone comes to me and asks me to borrow $20 for gas, I go to the Gas Station with them and I put the gas in to their car.
You will find that about half of the time you will not have to go there; they really did not needed the gas, they just wanted the cash for something else.
The same goes for diapers, baby food and groceries. Offer to go to the store and buy it and you will find that most times they do not really want to go to the store. I even went as far as asking to use their car to go to the store to buy those things for them, this will make them think.
Baby needs is a very common excuse to get money out of someone; who ever wants a baby to not have diapers or food? Do not fall in to that trap.
Offer to bring them to the local Food Bank if they do not have transportation, or give them the information on the Food Banks if they do have a car to go there themselves.
Do anything you can not to have to open your own wallet and fork out those $$ you’ll be needing yourself.
It is also always a good idea to have a list of phone numbers for the local charity organizations handy and to get those people to make their own phone calls so they get the help they need. Most Department of Family Services offices have little cards with all those numbers on them. Call and they will send them to you in the mail.
There are organizations in every County of the US that will help with the vital commodities, like help with the utility bills, at least once a year.
Most of all: USE THEM FOR YOURSELF.
Helping others all the time will drive your boat right into the swamp and you are stuck, sometimes to a point where you can not find a way out by yourself.
ASK FOR HELP YOURSELF, it is out there.
The emotional part of this is another story and a lot harder to overcome.
Are you letting someone else suck you emotionally dry? Do you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall and there is no end to the problems of other people?
In some aspects, emotion suckers are worse the money suckers. They get to you before you know it and you don’t usually see it coming.
They come into your life and before you know it they are your life. They load their problems up on you and walk out leaving it all behind. You rack your brain on solutions for them and your own life comes to a screeching halt. You go to bat for someone that is not your own problem and it is eating you up. All the while the other person lives his/ her own life and does not worry about anything. Why should they, they have you to worry about it for them, and you are more than willing to do it!
Situations like this will bring you to the edge of a nervous break down, they will stress you out and reek havoc in your own life.
You can defeat this by realizing what it is that stresses you. Realize that it is not your problem and that you need to get a grip on your own life by NOT getting a grip on somebody else’s problems.
Those problems will sidetrack you from your own and by time you realize what is happening, your own little problems have grown into mountains that are hard to climb.
Do not be afraid to tell people that come into your life and expect you to take care of their problems, to find another way. Tell them you have your own life to live and that it is time for them to get their life in order on their own.
Spend more time with positive people and less with the ones that have constant problems. Surround yourself with the joy of life, not the downfalls and you will have more happiness.
Develop a daily schedule, and stick to it.
Cut out all stress inducing outside influences and you will find that life is not so bad after all. Allow time to help others with this schedule, but make sure it is a small enough amount and you will be able to handle it. Use that time only to come to the aid of others and when that time is up, get on with your own life.
Do not let anybody abuse you emotionally!
People that manipulate you, coerce you, intimidate you and generally show behavior that is designed to control you are abusers. They may not abuse you physically, but they sure lay claim to your emotions. They can brain wash you before you know it and you will be at their beck and call.
If you let them do this to you, you may not even know at the beginning what is happening, but I can tell you that you will be scarred for life.
-
The other person places unreasonable demands on you and wants you to put everything else aside to tend to their needs.
-
It could be a demand for constant attention, or a requirement
-
You are subjected to constant criticism, and you are constantly berated because you don’t fulfill all this person’s needs.
Don’t let this happen to you, realize what is happening and act on that realization.
Are you one of those people that can’t say “NO”, no matter how much hardship it will cost you?
How far will you go to help your friends and family financially and emotionally?
Will you give your last shirt? Your last 5 Dollar Bill?
Will you give up money you had set aside to pay a vital bill and then loan it out with the promise to get it back before the bill was due; just to scramble when the bill was due and the payback was not forthcoming?
Have you had your power, your water or any other utility shut off because you loaned the money out on a promise and did not get it back in time?
There is nothing wrong with helping someone that fell on hard times, IF you can afford it!
There is everything wrong with you helping and then needing help yourself and not getting it.
There are other ways to help people to get what they need.
I learned that if someone comes to me and asks me to borrow $20 for gas, I go to the Gas Station with them and I put the gas in to their car.
You will find that about half of the time you will not have to go there; they really did not needed the gas, they just wanted the cash for something else.
The same goes for diapers, baby food and groceries. Offer to go to the store and buy it and you will find that most times they do not really want to go to the store. I even went as far as asking to use their car to go to the store to buy those things for them, this will make them think.
Baby needs is a very common excuse to get money out of someone; who ever wants a baby to not have diapers or food? Do not fall in to that trap.
Offer to bring them to the local Food Bank if they do not have transportation, or give them the information on the Food Banks if they do have a car to go there themselves.
Do anything you can not to have to open your own wallet and fork out those $$ you’ll be needing yourself.
It is also always a good idea to have a list of phone numbers for the local charity organizations handy and to get those people to make their own phone calls so they get the help they need. Most Department of Family Services offices have little cards with all those numbers on them. Call and they will send them to you in the mail.
There are organizations in every County of the US that will help with the vital commodities, like help with the utility bills, at least once a year.
Most of all: USE THEM FOR YOURSELF.
Helping others all the time will drive your boat right into the swamp and you are stuck, sometimes to a point where you can not find a way out by yourself.
ASK FOR HELP YOURSELF, it is out there.
The emotional part of this is another story and a lot harder to overcome.
Are you letting someone else suck you emotionally dry? Do you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall and there is no end to the problems of other people?
In some aspects, emotion suckers are worse the money suckers. They get to you before you know it and you don’t usually see it coming.
They come into your life and before you know it they are your life. They load their problems up on you and walk out leaving it all behind. You rack your brain on solutions for them and your own life comes to a screeching halt. You go to bat for someone that is not your own problem and it is eating you up. All the while the other person lives his/ her own life and does not worry about anything. Why should they, they have you to worry about it for them, and you are more than willing to do it!
Situations like this will bring you to the edge of a nervous break down, they will stress you out and reek havoc in your own life.
You can defeat this by realizing what it is that stresses you. Realize that it is not your problem and that you need to get a grip on your own life by NOT getting a grip on somebody else’s problems.
Those problems will sidetrack you from your own and by time you realize what is happening, your own little problems have grown into mountains that are hard to climb.
Do not be afraid to tell people that come into your life and expect you to take care of their problems, to find another way. Tell them you have your own life to live and that it is time for them to get their life in order on their own.
Spend more time with positive people and less with the ones that have constant problems. Surround yourself with the joy of life, not the downfalls and you will have more happiness.
Develop a daily schedule, and stick to it.
Cut out all stress inducing outside influences and you will find that life is not so bad after all. Allow time to help others with this schedule, but make sure it is a small enough amount and you will be able to handle it. Use that time only to come to the aid of others and when that time is up, get on with your own life.
Do not let anybody abuse you emotionally!
People that manipulate you, coerce you, intimidate you and generally show behavior that is designed to control you are abusers. They may not abuse you physically, but they sure lay claim to your emotions. They can brain wash you before you know it and you will be at their beck and call.
If you let them do this to you, you may not even know at the beginning what is happening, but I can tell you that you will be scarred for life.
-
The other person places unreasonable demands on you and wants you to put everything else aside to tend to their needs.
-
It could be a demand for constant attention, or a requirement
-
You are subjected to constant criticism, and you are constantly berated because you don’t fulfill all this person’s needs.
Don’t let this happen to you, realize what is happening and act on that realization.
Are you one of those people that can’t say “NO”, no matter how much hardship it will cost you?
How far will you go to help your friends and family financially and emotionally?
Will you give your last shirt? Your last 5 Dollar Bill?
Will you give up money you had set aside to pay a vital bill and then loan it out with the promise to get it back before the bill was due; just to scramble when the bill was due and the payback was not forthcoming?
Have you had your power, your water or any other utility shut off because you loaned the money out on a promise and did not get it back in time?
There is nothing wrong with helping someone that fell on hard times, IF you can afford it!
There is everything wrong with you helping and then needing help yourself and not getting it.
There are other ways to help people to get what they need.
I learned that if someone comes to me and asks me to borrow $20 for gas, I go to the Gas Station with them and I put the gas in to their car.
You will find that about half of the time you will not have to go there; they really did not needed the gas, they just wanted the cash for something else.
The same goes for diapers, baby food and groceries. Offer to go to the store and buy it and you will find that most times they do not really want to go to the store. I even went as far as asking to use their car to go to the store to buy those things for them, this will make them think.
Baby needs is a very common excuse to get money out of someone; who ever wants a baby to not have diapers or food? Do not fall in to that trap.
Offer to bring them to the local Food Bank if they do not have transportation, or give them the information on the Food Banks if they do have a car to go there themselves.
Do anything you can not to have to open your own wallet and fork out those $$ you’ll be needing yourself.
It is also always a good idea to have a list of phone numbers for the local charity organizations handy and to get those people to make their own phone calls so they get the help they need. Most Department of Family Services offices have little cards with all those numbers on them. Call and they will send them to you in the mail.
There are organizations in every County of the US that will help with the vital commodities, like help with the utility bills, at least once a year.
Most of all: USE THEM FOR YOURSELF.
Helping others all the time will drive your boat right into the swamp and you are stuck, sometimes to a point where you can not find a way out by yourself.
ASK FOR HELP YOURSELF, it is out there.
The emotional part of this is another story and a lot harder to overcome.
Are you letting someone else suck you emotionally dry? Do you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall and there is no end to the problems of other people?
In some aspects, emotion suckers are worse the money suckers. They get to you before you know it and you don’t usually see it coming.
They come into your life and before you know it they are your life. They load their problems up on you and walk out leaving it all behind. You rack your brain on solutions for them and your own life comes to a screeching halt. You go to bat for someone that is not your own problem and it is eating you up. All the while the other person lives his/ her own life and does not worry about anything. Why should they, they have you to worry about it for them, and you are more than willing to do it!
Situations like this will bring you to the edge of a nervous break down, they will stress you out and reek havoc in your own life.
You can defeat this by realizing what it is that stresses you. Realize that it is not your problem and that you need to get a grip on your own life by NOT getting a grip on somebody else’s problems.
Those problems will sidetrack you from your own and by time you realize what is happening, your own little problems have grown into mountains that are hard to climb.
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