Just when the life seems to be going smooth we find ourself in a pool of critics ready to pass rude comments. It is more painful if it is done with the aim of leaving you with a feeling of embarrassment .With the critical remarks amidst many people you feel ridiculous.
Criticism can be healthy as long as it is constructive and adds value to your thoughts.But unfortunately we come across people with destructive criticism .If you try to ignore it or cope with it you are all the more encouraging the critic and not doing any help to your own self or your opponent.
When it comes to family relationships it is best to tackle the problem with care.Some find pleasure in interfering in other people’s family matters. Here are some ways in which their attitude can be amended and used for the benefit of whole family.
If you are sure of the sniper’s presence during a family get together,stop all of a sudden from what you want to convey and immediatety focus on the sniper.Do not overreact to what the sniper has said.When he realizes you are ready to step back, there are 100 percent chances that he gets confused and might react differently.
Try to know the underlying nature of the critic:
To prevent any confrontation it becomes necessary to know the true nature of the all the persons who indulge in negative criticism.It may a bit difficult in the beginning but a little bit of investigation can help you in the long run.
Give benefit of doubt to the critic:
When interacting with the person look into his eyes and speak, and speak only when you are spoken to.When he knows you are ready to step back get ready to ask some specific questions about the remarks he had passed.Give the benefit of doubt to him because we find it difficult to digest when someone tells us we are wrong.
Try to reason:
While interacting if the opponent becomes hostile and acts aggressively you are at an advantage.Try to be empathetic and suggest amicable solutions.The chances are he might not like it and remember he might be impatient to listen to your reasoning .
Never remain silent:
If you remain silent the sniper might think you have accepted defeat and will never amend his ways and find himself victorious.After all silence is not always golden.
Appreciate criticism with polite remarks such as “Thanks for your feedback” or “I am glad you payed a lot of attention to what I said”.You can always listen to the person as long as think you can get some valuable information.Many people appreciate it when you react to things positively and get drawn towards you.Life is full of ups and downs and ways to handle it are many.So lets face it rather than brood over trivial matters.