An Opinion by Barbara Kasey Smith’s Corner of the World:
I’m a firm believer people should never play a role in their lives but they should stand up and be a real person who speaks their mind and stands firm in their beliefs. If we go through life being a phony, we’re only fooling ourselves and those who have loved us the most. A man/woman should show who they truly are because if they don’t, they’ll never allow the “real person” to stand up and speak. Many people go through life everyday being a “yes” person or living in an imaginative set pace in life because they’re afraid to speak out about how they truly feel. I believe, hiding your true self to become someone else, is living a lie.
This can and will have adverse effects in your every day life. People will soon see through the “real” you if they’re around you long enough. I cannot imagine living a lie day after day and agreeing about something relating to a subject just because someone sees it differently. “Yes” people are considered to be weak and afraid of their shadows. Who are you trying to impress by agreeing with them anyway? If you are asked, speak up and say exactly what your opinion or feeling is pertaining to any subject. Don’t give anyone the right to hold the keys to your inner most thoughts and opinions…”you own your opinions” and you have the right to voice them. If you’re a “yes” person it won’t take long for the word to get around about how you deal with facts and people will lose respect for whatever you have to say because they already know you’ll agree with those in authority .
“Yes” people are weak and unable to answer for themselves and then they’re unhappy because they allowed someone else to speak for them. Don’t be a person who fears airing opinions…do you want this habit to rub off on your child/children? Your child/children will also see the “real” you too and they’ll fail to be honest and forthright about their feelings with you too. We, as people, should enjoy a good discussion with others about a difference of an opinion…this is what keeps things working properly in our daily lives. Don’t allow yourself to become a shadow of one’s self. Speak up and discuss any differences you have on “any” subject, don’t sit there and bite your lip like you cannot speak you own opinions and thoughts. Speaking up will earn you respect and authority because you may have some great ideas that may need to be explored. Don’t allow the “cat to steal your tongue,” speak out and speak up about your opinions because they “do” count even though some may disagree with you.
When you make up your mind to speak out and let go of those opinions you’ve been sitting on for years, you’ll find your walk in life will be happier and more fulfilling. You’ll also find out that people “respect” your opinions and ideas; and you’ll no longer be the clown in a debate.
Barbara Kasey Smith is the writer of this article; it was previously posted by Pitlane Magazine.