In my earlier days, I had some accidents where I hit people with my car. Not that I set out to do it, however, the stuffed anger inside from my painful life had to vent somehow. Often, I drove down the road like I was in the Indy 500 because I was tired of always being last in life. That was the only way, on a subconscious level, my anger could express. I know that when I was hit by other cars from the rear, my deep anger brought that to me, as my victim energy attracted that. One more time I could complain about being a victim.
Today, when someone gives me the finger, toots their horn, tailgates, or even dropped a rock on my window shield of my car from a bridge across the freeway, I send him or her love. These people are hurting. Why pass on this hurt yourself? What does that accomplish that is positive? Their action has nothing to do with your self-esteem and security if you are a healthy minded person, you see their pain.
When a person has not dealt with their issues from the past they project their anger onto others. This is very immature and hurtful to say the least. Understanding it and how to discourage others using their anger to create violence, harm, and accidents is important. I am a counselor who works with people daily, with anger coming out sideways in destructive ways.
When so many people act out their immature behavior from negative feelings trying to give out their pain and discomfort to others so they feel better, we have a sick society. Identifying the problem is coming out of denial and awakening to there is a better way to live life and not harm others in the process. Ultimately, you only hurt yourself by not out growing your past pains. It finally manifests as addictions, illness, or disease of some sort getting your attention.
If you are in traffic, and have someone giving you the finger or other aggressive behavior, why play the victim to his or her acts. A way not to react from their aggression is to accept they must be having a bad day, or send love, wishing them well. We all are crying out for love.
If more people understood acting out from old trauma, drama, or mistreatment in life, only increases the problem, then we can shift into a caring society. However, to acknowledge feelings in a healthy way, with a counselor or through prayer will relieve the need to hurt others from that pain. We need to help those you are angry and understand their immaturity and hurt.
How can I be helpful, solves the problem. When we pass on caring to another we are actually employing the Golden Rule, do onto others, as you would want them to treat you. Coming into a loving solution always works. Is this such a bad idea in our days of turmoil, crisis and fearful messages in society. Everyone benefits and feels good.
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