I am confused, I have been in a relationship for almost 8 years, however, someone from the past came into the picture. He has been calling me for the past five months and now I don’t know what to do. Can You help me?
First it is totally normal to feel confused since you have two guys from which to choose. The fact that you have split your attention from your honey to another person it’s going to create a lot of chaos.
To start with I will like to ask you a simple question, Why did your ex become an ex and since when? . and whether or not he was being the one to take off. This will help you see some of his old patterns and maybe help you make a better decisions about what to do next
The Long Term Relationship Dilemma.
I do know being in a relationship with someone for a long time could easily take some of the excitement a new lover or ex boyfriend might bring to you, so it is always easier to let ourselves been seduced by new promises. I do understand you might have a great connection with your ex but you need to take everything into consideration before letting things escalate to fast too quick. .
I do recommend keeping any unfinished business with exes out of the equation if you already have a good guy at home. Do you think it is really worth the risk ? Are you willing to leave your current relationship to this other person? If your situation with your guy its not working of haven’t been working for a long time then take some time for yourself BUT don’t jump from A to B. You might end up losing both.
Should I Let My Ex Go?
If you really value your current relationship you can perfectly explain to your ex what your situation at home looks like. If you are clear with him that you are going to honor your relationship and he sees you being serious and really commit to your guy. He will understand you and walk out of your life, however, if he does sees a tinny opportunity that you might let him in, that you might invite him to seduce you. he will definitely take the chance. You have complete control on how to play your cards so be smart.
How To Deal With Your Confusion
Confusion does happen when we welcome them, when we don’t set healthy boundaries in our life for what’s acceptable or not for our own health. Let me remind you that it is you and only you who can determinate how far you want to go in any situation. The rest its a price tag you are going to pay in the long term. So get to set healthy boundaries so you can better protect yourself.
How to Set Healthy Boundaries Around You?
If you want to find out how to set healthy boundaries in your life, please don’t hesitate to contact me for a private consultation about your relationship and dating situation. I will be more than happy to help you. I do provide the best tips, tools and solutions to navigate the dating and relationship arena. And remember… My Approach Work
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