Changes in attitude
One must try to put oneself in the other person’s shoes sometimes to understand the other person’s viewpoint.
One must learn to listen to others with patience. Most of us are in a hurry to talk and want others to listen but do not have enough patience to listen to the other person, which is one of the most common causes of chronic work zone stress.
Learn to look at things more objectively and dispassionately.
Do your best in any given situation and leave the rest to a higher power.
Trust in the presence of a higher intelligence, `an unseen hand’, which is always ready to guide us provided we are open to be guided.
Consider every experience as a `learning experience,’ however traumatic it may be. Once we stop labeling an experience as `good’ or `bad’, we look at it more dispassionately, and that is what is needed in a chronic stress situation.
Relaxation and meditation techniques
*Deep and regular breathing
*Stress stock-taking’ of the body
*Listening to music which is stimulating and soothing with all attention
*Yoga and other meditation techniques
*Special meditation techniques belonging to different spiritual orders.
It should be understood that all these meditation and relaxation process, pranayama and breathing techniques have to be learnt under a trained teacher. These are specialized techniques and, if done without supervision or done by reading some lay media material, they can be harmful to the doer. There are many half-backed poorly trained people who claim to be meditation and relaxation therapists. Please beware of them and unless their true credentials are known, it is better to avoid them.
Gender difference in stress response
Yes, there are differences between now how men and women handle stress at different levels. Some of the broad differences are:-
Type of stress /effects –men – women
Acute stress ———— good —- poor
Chronic stress ———- poor —- excellent
Physical effects ——– bad —– not bad
Emotional effects —— poor —- better handled
Most stressful ———- mid-life- pregnancy
Period in life ———– retirement –menopause
There are broad and general principles. There may be individual variations.