There are many people in today’s society who are living under constant stress and pressure in their daily lives. They’re rushing to get children off to school, being stuck in a traffic jams and they’re suppose to be in a meeting at work, facing a series of tests on the job, got a dentist appointment at 2:00 p.m., worrying about being laid off, a child has a soccer game today at 6:00 p.m., and there’s an early pick-up of the children from the sitter. These are just a few of the stresses people face on any given day.
People’s daily lives are one big race course waiting for a violent wreck to happen. They often wonder why they’re suffering from pains in their chest, muscle aches and pains, headaches, and other ailments and ending up in a doctor’s office or hospital. In our society people are under continual pressures and stresses and it amazes me why more of us don’t end up sick. People should realize that these factors equal anxiety, fear, and it all begins when we’re children.
A body is like a pressure cooker waiting to blow up. There’s stress on the mind, heart and other parts of the body and they’re being affected over time. The body can only take so much stress until it becomes totally burned out and it will start to shut down and commence to go into a limbo mode. Do you want to know how I know this, I went through this type stress for many years, and then one day I woke up to find I was totally burned out, and believe me, it’s not a good feeling?
Stress and pressure factors start early in childhood and it continues until adulthood. Many school children and adults too fear failure and this causes a loss of self-esteem and self-confidence in them; therefore, generating fears that become magnified until they begin to break and shut down. These factors starts in childhood and it continues throughout their lives.
Stress in young children and in people affects their daily habits, because of distractions; lack of concentration and comprehension, etc., this causes people/children to act out on their jobs, during studies, in the classrooms, and in various other areas of their lives.
Stress causes the mind to race until concentration and comprehension becomes distorted and children/people cannot perform up to par. It’s my belief children/ people suffer from the "fear of failure" and it causes them to have difficulties throughout their entire lives. I know this was the case for me when I was a young child, because the word "failure" scared me stiff and I could feel myself freezing up and shutting down.
It’s great to teach children to do the best they can, and if they should have a failing grade, it is not the end of the world for them. Allow them to vent about their failing grade and allow them to know they can study harder the next time. Never put a child down for a bad grade when "you’re aware" they studied hard for the exam. This can cause an immediate problem for children. Learning to cope with stress and pressure begins by teaching that it is okay when a person has done their best.
Parents should be on the lookout for these type problems in their children, and they should question them regularly, and have a good communication to allow them to open-up to discuss their anxieties and fears. Communication releases stress and pressure in children, allows them to settle down and to feel at ease with their parents.
Let’s face it, not all people/children grasp problems in the same manner and for some it may be easy but for others it may be hard. I’ve often asked myself, "Why am I in the hard to understand category?" Some people are blessed with solving complicated problems while others are not. Everyone should be taught that it is okay to ask questions because "no" two people ever think the same.
We need to make-up our minds to teach our children to take a day at a time and "not" allow stress and pressure to steal their sunlight. Let them know when they’ve done the best they can that they’ll achieve success and the fear of failure will fade.
Sole Writer of this article is Barbara Kasey Smith and it’s based on her own experiences and learning processes.