Commentary Opinion – NFL’s Probe About Bullying
I’m sure people have read many articles about bullying and the reasons why it happens in our society but when people see their major sports teams having serious bullying issues within their own realms this causes a person to step back and scratch their head and ask, “Why would a famous sports player want to bully another player anyway aren’t they supposed to be mature, articulate, educated, a step above a bully and they’re too professional and mature to play a bully game or to be a bully referee either because they’re accomplished heroes in the eyes of young people and others too?”
I’ve seen bullying throughout my lifetime in all types of schools, social atmospheres, and school sports games and in the workplace too and it’s not something I like to be associated with. A big red flag automatically goes up and I immediately get an attitude, “The bully had better not try to bully me.”
It’s my opinion a bully is a person who believes he/she has a right to take control of a person by the means of inflecting physical, emotional, social and mental abuse to another person.
A bully loves to taunt, make fun of and pick on a person in front of others. They will conduct these actions in areas where others can see them doing the bullying to boost their importance and feelings of power. Do you want to know why they do this, “It’s because they want to feel important and this builds up their weak ego to give them a feeling of utopia and an ability to do it to rev up their power source?”
Bullies are big cowards and they have “no” self-esteem, self-confidence and they’re hiding the fact that they’re afraid like “scared” children. What is better for building up an ego than to try to prove you’re a powerful and important person?
Bullies scout out a person who is afraid of them, shy, loner, and showing a weakness and are not an outspoken person.
There are bullies who are copying the actions of their fathers or mothers and they’ve been bullied throughout their childhood. When children are mistreated and slapped around in the home place, they will end up with a sense of insecurities; have anger issues, and have the inability to “speak-up” for themselves. Some bullies end up displaying criminal behaviors and end up becoming heavy drug users too. This is because anger has been building up for years and this is their way of releasing it.
If you’re an adult victim of a bullying situation, face the bully head-on in a defensive manner and let him/her know you’re not afraid nor do you fear them. A bully lacks empathy for people, especially those who are their victims. They get a “high” from making their victims squirm, feel uncomfortable and to feel their agony; if a person stands-up to them this totally destroys their ability to control them, ruining the gratifications they get from the bullying.
It’s wise for an adult who is being bullied to realize a bully is filled with anger and fear and when they look into the eyes of the bully and show them they’re “not” afraid of them, this will squash their feelings of having control over them. Allow them to know they’re the weakling and you’ll not condone their bullying.
I’ve always considered a bully as being a “big windbag” and they’re full of fear, weakness, insecurity, anger, shyness and the exact type of person they’ve chosen to pick on to control. It’s best for an adult to never allow anyone to begin to take control of their life and stand-up and talk back to them immediately. If you cannot control the person, contact an authority that can take the necessary actions to stop the bullying. Most times, a bully will back down when they see they’re not going to control the person.
People should stand-up to anyone who is trying to bully and take control of their situations. Speak-up and act out if someone tries to control you and be sure you do it in front of a crowd, this will make the bully poke their bullying heads back into their weak shell and to revert to being the weakling they are.
Barbara Kasey Smith is the writer of this article – this is Barbara’s own opinion.