Rules to internet dating and using sound judgment when agreeing to meeting someone online. Keep in mind that what is being said will also help you to avoid problems and issues and here are 5 simple rules to consider:
*Keep in mind that you don’t know who you are talking to on the other side of the
computer you could be talking to someone either way older or younger than you.
*If someone isn’t willing to answer questions like telling their actual age and/or their marital status chances likely they’re not being honest with you. People who are honest will have no problem telling you their real age and marital status.
* Be aware about people who are married or involved since some people are
looking for flings online because it’s easy not to get attached, but simply tell
them to go home to their husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend since you’re not
a solution to their relationship issues.
*Ask for pictures and photos should be recent and if the individual refuses to
show you a picture they’re probably trying to hide how he/she looks. Always
maintain honesty in appearance.
* Meet in a public place at a reasonable time and do not agree to meet each
other at your respective residences because you don’t know someone well
enough to give them your home address or phone number and the best
thing to do is to exchange cell numbers until you know someone well
enough for them to have your home address and number. Anyone who asks
you to meet late at night are likely seeking a sexual thing, respectable people
meet at a reasonable hour and are considerate of time
* When you meet dress appropriately nothing revealing or too flashy and
spend time picking out a good outfit for a first date and give your hair and
hygiene the same attention as your outfit meaning a style that’s tasteful
and simple nothing too over the top.
Keep in mind that meeting people from the internet is risky and if you use common sense and good judgment you can avoid the unexpected surprises that comes with meeting someone from the internet. This is especially important to women since they have to take an even bigger part in protecting their safety and security when meeting men online. The majority of people you meet online are not going to be honest and upfront with you and that’s the downside of things when you actually meet the person face to face and find out things they didn’t disclose to you such as how they really look. That’s the mystery of the internet you can go on there and pretend to be someone and you don’t have to worry about someone seeing the real you and you don’t have to think about who gets hurt.
When truthfully speaking people do get hurt because they honestly believe that the person they’re talking to is being honest with them when in fact some people use it as an escape especially those who have poor socialization skills to the point they don’t really get out much. This explains the surge in men asking women to send provocative photos of themselves. This is why the internet is in dire need of an overhaul meaning that they make it a requirement to say what your marital status is so people are aware of who they’re dealing with because about 85% of the people who come online are married or seriously involved with someone. Coming from experience it’s not a great feeling when you get to talking to someone and you learn later they’re living with someone or are married because they made their description sound so great, but what they fail to realize is that in the end the lies do catch up with you and can cost you everything. If someone offers to pay for say a plane ticket to come and see them if they’re long distance don’t accept it because when you get there they’re going to expect something in return other than you coming it could be sex so for women this is important so if you’re planning to meet someone out of state or country pay your own travel expenses and stay in a hotel not that person’s house or apartment even if they insist because it’s less of a commute it’s better to be safe than sorry. Men also need to be aware of women as well since she may not be who you think she is since people are good at putting on fronts and covers to hide any questionable flaws or behaviors that could make people think twice on meeting them.
For all you know you could be dealing with a known sexual predator or serial killer….those who remember the serial killer BTK he ran amok in Kansas for more than 20 years before being caught, times are not the same and one must exercise caution when agreeing to meet someone from the internet because some of the world’s most dangerous predators, sex offenders, and pedophiles lure their victims by using the internet so it’s just a matter of caution to be mindful of. If you want to read more into real-life internet encounters both good and negative check out www.WildxAngel.com , this is not a porn site, but it’s a site created to educate people on the dangers of internet romances and what you can do to protect yourself both on and offline when you agree or are planning to meet someone you met on the internet. If you adhere to a few simple rules to meeting someone online you’ll save yourself the trouble of getting hurt, assaulted, or disappointed after seeing this person.
Some people who target certain genders can pretend to be a man or woman to get their specific target. The best way to know if that person’s male or female is to check out their screen names if there’s a manly feel to them then chances likely it’s a male or if it’s feminine then it’s a female, but few people allow others to be on their SN and that’s another concern anyone who allows friends and family outside of your household to use your internet are advised to set limits because you got a lot of predators who will borrow other people’s computers to hide out and stalk their next victim so it’s imperative that anyone who uses your computer is aware of the rules beforehand.
The internet can be a dangerous place and if you’re not educated to knowing about those dangers you can place yourself or those you love in harm’s way. Educate yourself and those you love about the dangers of internet dating and if you’re looking for a reputable date go through sites like Match.com, True.com (they will screen out felons and marrieds-highly recommended for those fed up with meeting people who you later find out are married and/or are covicted felons and they will prosecute to the fullest extent of the law if they find a marriage license on file currently valid or you’re recently paroled), and Eharmony.com since they’re all reputable sites and have advertisements on tv and online so you know they’re out there. There’s that saying when you’re meeting someone online that when in doubt to check them out. It’s a small price to pay than to end up with a huge disappointment in the end. Most people should take those they meet online at face value because most people see the internet as an outlet and to play a fantasy can be very hard when it all comes down to how it all unfolds in the end when you meet face to face.
It’s important to take time to get to know someone before you start meeting and trying to have a relationship. This also applies to those who have been talking online for a while who want to up and relocate to another state or even country. You want to make sure that the person you’re leaving your life behind to be with is going to be there for the long haul because the last thing you need is to get stuck somewhere in another state or country you’re not familiar with. Educate yourself on everything from crime rate to the environment to know what you’re getting yourself into when you meet your “friend” from wherever they are in the world.