In life people go through various stages of likes and dislikes and this is one I’ve often given some thoughts to since I was a teenager. I had a particular look that I wanted in a dating partner and if they didn’t meet my expectations…I wasn’t interested. I’ve found through life that this is a totally bad concept because it’s not what a person looks like on the outside but what lives on the inside of them that truly counts.
I’ve found that good looks doesn’t bring happiness any more than the most popular person brings friends into a person’s life, it’s what lives on the inside of a person that brings happiness and a real relationship. Yes, it’s wonderful to see a beautiful face in the crowd but if they don’t have a good personality they can also be a wallflower, anti-social, intolerable and a person who is hard to get along with. Which would you choose?
Have you ever noticed how men and women go for the most popular and best looking person in a group of people? If they’re lucky, they might get a brief hello or a smug grin from the person but the person usually ends up leaving with the most popular/good-looking person also in the crowd. How does that leave others feeling?
Have you ever noticed how a good-looking and popular person carries himself/herself? Most emit an air of being better than anyone else…is this me or is it this way with you? They also leave an appearance that they can get anything they want and can do whatever they want because they’re privileged; and in some cases they walk all over others.
Where does a person believe this comes from? It’s my opinion people in general instigate this because they’re in awe at the person’s attractiveness and they put them up on a pedestal building their egos to the pinnacle. I believe people are guilty of devising this utopia in a good-looking persons mind, causing them to feel “special.”
I can recall when I was in high-school a normal looking woman/man didn’t stand a chance with what was called “the hunk” or “the goddess” because they cherry-picked the best looking man/women to date or run around with and the normal were left to suck their thumbs.
In today’s society the Internet has introduced sites a person can go to meet and chat with other people and quickly each wants to exchange a photograph to actually see how the person looks; and if the person doesn’t like their looks they’ll withdraw from the conversations and end the chats immediately…see how visual plays a trick on the mind? See how quick the relationship ended?
It’s sad that people judge a person by their looks but this happens in everyday life. It’s my opinion that people are interested in the visual aspect for judging a connection with a mate and a connection blooms from that visual aspect they have of the individual. I believe people ought to get acquainted with an individual before making a quick judgment call or they may be in for a huge disappointment. It’s my belief some people have allowed a wonderful catch to get away from them because they wanted to have a good looking person on their arms.
A personality is a requirement in any relationship to get along together as partners. My encounter with the best looking person has brought negative results many times in my life and I’ve been totally fooled by their appearances. I’ve found “the best looking” is not always the best choice.”
There’s a different side to every person and it takes a long time to perceive the “real” person who’s on the inside. Yes they may have been “Mr. Macho” or “the Goddess” of the crowd but they may also have a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality lurking inside.
I believe it’s wise for people not to be hasty in their choices and not too quick to judge a person by their outside appearance but wait and get a look at what lives on the inside. Patience is golden and rewarding in life.
This article was written as an opinion of Barbara Kasey Smith – Copyright 2014 – Use by permission only.