So, your big day is coming up, huh? We’re sure that you want every little detail to be perfect, so you’re probably stressing way too much about all of the small things. But why should your wedding planning be such a stressful event? Shouldn’t these be some of the best days of your life?
Well, wedding planning doesn’t have to be the most stressful thing in the world. And that’s what we’re here for! The article below is going to give you some inside tips on the things you need to know before you start planning the big day. From not sweating the small stuff to trusting your vendors, we’ve got you covered.
Keep reading to learn more!
- Never ever book your venue before you hire a planner.
This is one of the golden rules when it comes to wedding planning. What sense does it make to go ahead and book your wedding venue before you even hire a planner? Many couples are dead set on where they want to have their wedding set at and that’s completely fine. However, it’s best to include your planner on this decision.
Why? Well, your venue is basically going to dictate every single thing about your wedding. It will determine how many people you’ll be able to fit in the venue. It’ll determine if you’ll be able to have a reception right next door. There are so many things that are already decided once you have your venue booked. That’s why it’s best to work with your planner to determine whether or not this venue is really going to be the best choice for your big day.
- Don’t take your vendors for granted – trust them.
When you hire people to work for your wedding, why would you boss them around and tell them what to do? If you bring creatives like caterers, photographers, and others onto your wedding team, you should completely trust them to do what they do best – their creative work.
Trust your vendors to make your wedding magical. They are the experts in what they do and you should let them do their own work. This may seem a little bit out of your comfort zone because you probably want every single thing perfect and exactly how you want it to be. However, when you tell a creative person how to do their work, it usually makes their work less quality.
- You’re going to need a lot of patience.
Your wedding isn’t going to be planned in a couple of days. It’s just not possible for something so huge and amazing to come together in a short period of time. Vendors have to bid on and booked, venues have to be prepped, decorations have to be ordered, and so many other things. This is one of the biggest lessons that soon-to-be-spouses need to learn before they start planning their weddings. You may get frustrated with how slow things seem to be going, but if you get started early enough, there’s not going to be any problems getting things ready in time.
- Don’t think you need to know every single detail.
There are plenty of things that no one ever told you about weddings. And one of those things is that no bride or groom ever knew every single thing that went into the wedding. There are tons of things that happen behind the scenes in terms of wedding planning. And that’s the way they should stay – behind the scenes. You should be focused on the bigger picture and the most important things – not all of those small details. When planning a wedding, the more the soon-to-be-spouses get involved in the details, the more frustrated they become.
That’s because you might get so bogged down in the details that you think you have to know everything that’s going on. But that’s simply not helpful. You should have your wedding planner focus on all of those crazy things, while you focus on the more important things like your health and wellness.
- You’re getting married – and that takes two people.
When you’re starting on wedding planning, you may be looking at tons of Pinterest pages or talking with your friends and family about what they did in the past. While this a good way to get some ideas, resist comparing your wedding with those of other people. Your wedding is about one thing and one thing only – you coming together with the person you love. And that should be reflected in your wedding.
Everything from your decorations to the food you serve should be a representation of the couple who is getting married. That’s why it’s not such a good idea to go exactly off of what you hear from other people or what you see online. Once it all comes together, it may not seem as authentic and reflecting of you as you would wish.
- It’s OK to fight with your fiancée while you plan.
Many couples think that fighting is a no-no when it comes to wedding planning. You may think that if you find yourself fighting with your fiancée during the planning stages, this signals bad things to come in the future of your marriage. However, this is simply not true.
It’s natural that couples fight – especially when doing something as stressful as wedding planning. But it’s important that anytime you do fight, both of you work it out and talk to each other. Never stop talking to your spouse during the planning phase – no matter how frustrating it may get. This communication is going to be a great signal of how things are going to go through your many years of marriage.
- Don’t sweat that small stuff.
Things are going to go wrong. That’s a fact of life – no marriage has ever gone off perfectly without anything going wrong. And that’s OK! As long as you get married at the end of the day without the venue burning down, things have gone fine. Try not to sweat the small stuff as much as you can because that’s just going to frustrate you beyond measure.
And there you have it. If you keep these things in mind, your wedding planning is going to go super smoothly without you being too frustrated at the end of the day. Let the small stuff fall of your shoulder and keep looking forward to that big day!