LESBIANS – UNSOLVED MYSTERY AND UNKNOWN ORIGIN
There are many labels, names and categories that have been
assigned or given to lesbians. What is lesbian"? Is it a certain type
of woman? Does one lesbian have an identical feature or character
as another lesbian? Does a lesbian have something extra or
something missing from heterosexual women? This notion that we
can classify a human being by their sexual preference is absolutely
ludicrous and unsubstantiated! Women are just that, women. Sexual
attraction to humans, be it the same sex or not, is not a concrete
science that can allow society to label women.
The choice of heterosexuality may not truly be a choice. In a recent
survey of women, 57% stated that heterosexuality was not
something that was considered and then chosen. For these women,
there was no decision to be made regarding their sexual preference
This is an interesting figure when you consider of those above
women, some admitted to having sexual encounters with other
women. I believe the choice is heavily tied to our culture, family
values, and surroundings. If all of the fish are swimming upstream,
why would you want to go against your
group and swim downstream?
Within the lesbian community, makes reference to two groups. There
are many lesbians that claim to have been "born" lesbian. To
expand on this subject, one would say these women never
questioned their sexual attraction. From day one, they were attracted
to other women. Although this is referred to as a primary lesbian, I
don’t believe it alleviates any of the stigmas or gives any more
comfort or ease to the woman. The elective lesbian is seen as
having "elected" to be lesbian. These are women who have
experienced heterosexual relations and have decided that they
prefer the same sex. This may appear as a choice, but it is far from
that. The environment or family setting may have driven these
women to repress their true desires out of fear of rejection. They may
also simply be confused and needed to try one way to better
understand the other way. Among lesbian relationships, we find the
data to be similar to heterosexual women. This makes sense and
gives more bearing to the thought that women are women. Lesbian
couples, like their heterosexual couples, prefer monogamous
relationships when in a deep and caring relationship. Lesbian
couples appear to want and most importantly, expect the same
things from a relationship as a heterosexual woman. Commitment,
support, and family values.
There are those that will claim lesbian couples cannot possibly have
or want family values since they are not themselves a true family.
This is a comical statement to me when we consider it is men who
have defined "family values" throughout the years.
It is obvious that there are differing opinions regarding lesbians.
Their life style, their beliefs and their choices have all been analyzed,
scrutinized and classified, but to the result of what? Does a woman’s
sexual preference affect anyone but that person? Then why is our
society so intent on labeling, understanding and discriminating
against lesbians? Could it be that anger is a concealment of personal
repressed sexual preferences? The time has come for humans to
act like humans and treat our species the same, regardless of sexual
preference. After all, sexual preference does not impact intellect
levels, work ethics, or honesty in a person. I believe those traits are
more important to understand then why a woman wants to be with
another woman.
DR. NAVRAJ SINGH SANDHU